GHF Guest Appearance: Closed Doors

For a girl who is usually GHF 24/7, it is hard to put on the not-so-rose colored glasses from time to time. But since GHF and GHE really are one and the same, it's my turn to "come to the dark side".

I firmly believe, in the most obnoxious GHF way possible, that everything happens for a reason.....so let's take that to the GHE side and analyze.

We've all been that girl, well -- two girls actually -- the one who got dumped and the one who was there to console the dumped. We all have our heart broken friend's best interest in mind when we tell her things like -- "He does not deserve you!", "You can and will do better!", "It's for the best, even though it hurts right now!". We've bought her a drink, we've treated her to Cold Stone, we've escorted her to the mall for some retail therapy. If we have been dumped, we've been on the receiving end of this TLC.

There is no substitute for the understanding and support a good girlfriend can bring to a break-up. Chicks before dicks, right, ladies? We need our sisters to be our strength when all we feel like doing is eating chocolate and cursing the day he was born.

So, ladies -- when the dumper reappears, which he most likely will, do you tell your sister to take him back? Do you throw her out there to get hurt again? Do you give him the satifaction of thinking that she's nothing without him and that he's the one and only?

I have to admit -- the GHF side of me says "I'm not sure" while the GHE side is screaming "Hell, no!!!". Doors are closed for a reason. Move on. The past is just that -- the past. He's never going to change. Look at his track record. Why are you even considering this as an option?

We tell ourselves to give people a second chance -- to do what, I say? Break your heart all over again, hurt you and betray your trust? No thanks.

So -- keep the door closed and move on. Save yourself the heartache and the pain and inevitable "I guess I saw that coming". Close the door and open yourself up to a better future.....oh, wait, that's a topic for GHF to tackle.